Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Father's Day ~ More of This Less of That

It's been a long time since I was able to do anything for my father for Father's Day, but when the day comes around, I do raise a glass in tribute to him for all he did for all of us.

For those who still have their Dad around, or a man who is like a Dad to you, I read something this morning that seems like the best possible gift to give, so I'm sharing it here for you think about. It comes from the blog Simply Living, written by Sherry Boas, a columnist for the Orlando Sentinel. She lives on a fine piece of land in Florida with her family, and writes beautifully about a life that makes me smile.

With Father ’s Day less than a week away, dad-centered gift promotions are coming on strong.  Peruse the pages of any periodical or newsprint and you’ll see ads for everything from casual clothing and camping gear to grilling accessories, techno-gadgets and sports paraphernalia.  Advertisers are doing their best to convince us that the latest ‘This’ or hottest ‘That’ is the perfect way to tell Dad he’s special.

In our family, Dad (better known as "Papa") is a marketer’s nightmare.  On a scale of 1 to 10, his desire for store-bought gifts registers around minus 15.  Madonna may have sung about Material Girl but my husband is the proverbial Non-Material Man. 

That said, there is one gift my dear husband would like.  So kids (we have four), if you’re reading this, pay attention.  The one present Papa wants for Father’s Day is this:  One Easy Day.

One Easy Day is a day without problems to solve.  It’s a day without drama, trauma or strife.  It’s 24 straight hours without anything breaking or going awry.  The computer doesn’t malfunction, water pipes don’t leak and caterpillars are considerate enough to leave the tomato leaves alone.
On his One Easy Day your father is free to do whatever he likes without interrupting phone calls, distracting texts or attention-diverting emails.  He can busy himself in the garden, go for a swim, take a long walk and bounce on the trampoline.  He can exercise to his heart’s content or take a nap if he’s tired.  Instead of being social worker, counselor, judge or jury, he can just be himself doing the things he likes best.   

One Easy Day isn’t about ignoring the people he loves.  It’s about enjoying his family.  It’s a day of harmony, happiness and feelings of gratitude.  Although his problem solving skills are beyond compare, on this one day of the year my husband (your dad) would like to give those skills a rest.

When our children were little, presents weren’t necessary.  Sweet hugs and kisses were gift enough to prove their love.  As children grow older, they sometimes forget that the best gifts to give are the simplest pleasures.  A kind word (or two or three…), a gentle touch, an expression of appreciation means much more than anything bought.

One Easy Day is too special to be reserved for fathers only.  There are times when each of us needs a day when nothing goes wrong.  As good as we might all be at figuratively putting out fires, there something to be said for spending a few well-deserved hours in a flame-free zone.

On June 16th, when dads around the country are unwrapping boxes filled with flashlights, fancy phones and brand new socks, I’m going to give my husband a massage.  I plan to turn the cell phone off, put the computer to sleep and hope-hope-hope that nothing in the house or property demands his attention. 

And kids - if you’re listening – on Father’s Day, please do your best to give Papa a rest.  On June 17th I promise he’ll be back into full fledged fix-it mode, happy to answer your banking questions, offer advice about medical issues and listen to your relationship problems with every ounce of his usual patience.  

But just for this one special day, let’s agree to surround him with peace.  One Easy Day…wouldn’t it be nice.
You might want to throw in a brunch and this one looks good to me, adapting it to your own Man of the Day's tastes. Pretty much all of it could be made or prepped a day or two ahead, so no one has to be doing much to disturb the peace of One Easy Day except for a good slow heating up.

Have a take time to enjoy time Tuesday. Do something (in)tangible.


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  2. Love this! Sending this to wife and children. Back from Savannah. Wonderful city. Wonderful trip. Didn't make it to Shell House. We stayed in downtown, they opened at 4pm 10 miles away. Not driving at 4 pm, party starts early here. We met a couple (glass artist and jazz musician) that moved from St Croix to Savannah. Robin Stearns? They told us about a tribute to Ben Tucker, 82 year old famous local jazz musician killed recently in a traffic accident. New Orleans style funeral procession to downtown park. Musicians from all over USA played from 1 pm until late night. Wow! Once in a lifetime experience. I love those. Lucky to have had(and having) many.

    1. Wow!!! Easy to miss Shell, which will be there another time, to have that once in a lifetime experience. Lucky lucky you two!!! Thanks for sharing this.